Irritating parents won't have submissive youngsters

Last time, for the " Parenting " category, it was " why kids and teens must submit themselves ". You saw how important and reasonable it was to submit yourself to your parents. But we don't stay there. If you really do your homework, congrats to you students. And now that you're above reproach, we do have to know about your parents then. Did they do theirs? If you have to obey your parents, be kind and good to them, let this be; but sometimes they will need to help you be that way. That's where we are with our topic. Our aim is to show that parents also have to behave themselves. First of all, we'll uncover some basic reasons why youngsters are not submissive, and then we'll unveil behavioral strategies for parents to have respectful, obedient, and submissive youngsters.

          We know that sometimes youngsters can't stand parents for no reason. Some youngsters are just rude and rebel. But on the other hand, if it's not the case, if those young adults are not that rude, if they can somehow behave themselves the right way, why, in spite of it, are they reluctant to listen to parents' advice?

          One of the biggest problem about parents is that they close their eyes on themselves and instead, they point fingers on their kids, young adults. Maybe they don't realize or they chose to ignore their defects. Here are major defects parents have.

          1. Their activities are too dominant to take youngsters' into account. We can't deny that parents have the right to dominate. But the problem is, they rarely show some sign of understanding regarding teens' activities. They don't even kindly convince you into cancelling yours and do theirs. But in some or other way, they force you.

          2. There's always an opportunity to criticize, and no congrats or encouragement. The truth is, teens and young adults have tremendous defects whilst living with their parents. But when it comes to light defects, that is to say, defects that do not disturb, that do not imply any big quarrel, or don't deserve to be criticized, they could just let it go. Or anyway, if they criticize often, they must not forget to congratulate or encourage every time need be.

          3. They quickly punish, while they're just bad. If parents punish, they must also mend their way. In fact, we humans should not have the right to punish anyone at all. But for the sake of hierarchy, parents have to do so, but in the right way, for relevant reasons, making great efforts to be good examples. Some parents got to be a good example by the time, cause they were wrong in the past. And it leaves a very bad history, in the point that when they punish, it gets annoying, so as to make their teens and young adults uncomfortable.

          If irritating parents can't gain obedience and submission from their kids or youngsters, working on one's behavior would then be effective.

          The behavior itself is the one key to the solution. As long as parents don't behave themselves the right way, kids, youngsters or young adults will always rebel. Now, here are major behavioral strategies parents could use so that their youngsters, young adults be submissive.
         1. Understanding and patience are gold. When you planed to do something that was important to you for specific day, even when your parents had bigger things to do that day, they must try to understand, instead of at once reject your activity. Understanding must not be inordinate. But parents can at least analyse and see when something is important and valuable. And when you let it go, it proves there's patience.
        2. Being encouraging and careful when criticizing. It is very warm when your parents encourage you in what you do, when they see you just did something great, or when they notice that you wanna give up. And before criticizing, they need to be careful. They must not criticize to hurt someone's heart; but instead, they have to accentuate your good qualities first, then give you reproach. It's a way to reduce bad reactions from your child.
        3. Not be volunteer to punish when they don't look that perfect or not at all. If you did something wrong, you deserve to be punished, but who does punish you. If your parents are really that bad, not like nightmare! But bad-tempered; therefore they must find someone else who's worthy to give you advice so that you take conscience of your defect. It's part of humility.

     
          This article is dedicated for your parents especially. They need to take conscience of their behavior, know that kids, youngsters or young adults are not always subject to defect. Instead of pointing your finger on the others, rather look at yourself to make a change, so that others can change if possible. Which was mentioned in Michael Jackson 7 keys to success. After reading this article, kindly share it with your parents. Also, do not forget to share the previous article to this category, which is " Why kids and teens must submit themselves ". And if you're ever struggling with irritating parents, there'll be an article for you in that same category. So keep updated with us. Thank you very much for reading. Comment if need be! We'd be very happy you share your ideas with us.