Power of thought to get self-comforting

We dare to say that self comforting is something everyone would be happy to gain. We all want to feel better about ourselves, and that makes somehow our basic satisfaction, cause once we feel this way, the other things we might need may no longer remain that urgent (not because we no longer want them). You may wonder how one can get self-comforting out of these wonderful and important things we strongly desire. The key thing is that self-comforting grows inside of us. Not outside. So first of all we want to know what does self-comforting mean and how to get it. And why can that make our basic satisfaction in spite of all the great things we dream and don't have yet, our biggest wishes? And more importantly, which powerful thought can create that comfortable space of mind?

          To begin with, self-comforting is the ability to calm down when facing difficult and turbulent situations. It is also synonym of self control, or more precisely mental self-control.

           Normally one can't get self-comforting easily. Anyone has to strive to gain that mindset. As we can't touch but can feel it, the whole work will have to be done inside. That's why, as you can see in the title,  we mentioned the term " Power of Thought ", to make understand that self comforting depends on thought. The best way to feel better about ourselves is by setting our thought in a positive way. Of course, it's not gonna be easy when facing difficulties. But at least, convince yourself to be positive in your mind. Or do it automatically, without feeling like doing it.

         The major reason why you don't have self-control is certainly, an unfulfilled dream. There are so plenty of dreams. Social dream, economy, sentimental dream, to name just a few. When you strongly desire something and don't have it yet, bad feelings may come up if you don't have self-control on them in some way. Such as stress , depression, stroke, anger etc... All this happen because our thought is not positive. The real problem is that we don't get the real definition of our success. Yes success comes when you achieve or get what you wanted so much. But note that anytime you grow you succeed. What we need mostly is gratefulness. And after that therein the right definition of our success. Let's say you want to get 50000$ per month, and that it happens for now you get 50$. Instead of saying " I don't have an extra income " say " my dream is just starting". And remember when you didn't even get 1$. So be grateful that you get 50, even though it's not that enough. The point is to just imagine that you get the 50000. It has a strong effect.

            Thought has such a great power that we do not realize. The more positive you think, the positive things will be going with you. You need to be positive at any point of view. Financially, socially, sentimentally, and mentally. You're not in the best or one of the best school, at you to define your social rank. No love relationship at all, or you've been deceived, again, at you to define your failure. Don't feel good-looking? At you to define your appearance. The point of feeling better about ourselves is to accept the situation and give it a different definition. So the key thing about getting self-comforting is gratefulness and positivism. In every detail, find out what was worse than today. The thing is to think positive.

               Soon, you'll notice how crucial self comforting was.

              All that can make you nervous is to desire and desire more and not receiving what you desire. As we just mentioned earlier, an unfulfilled dream may trigger a lot of bad feelings. And we know how uncomfortable, deprived, those bad feelings make us. For some people, unfulfilled dreams make them sad; others nervous, abusive, depressed, too quiet, etc... So the more you focus on that unfulfilled dream, the more depriving your life will look. That's why we need a self-comforting mindset to sustain ourselves. A mindset that says " I have it " or " It will come soon, hold on " or simply " Let's be quiet ". The point is to calm down in front of trials, to suffer less, to gain peace of mind.

                 A peace of mind is exactly what were looking for. Getting troubled may shut us down. So probably we need peace and happiness. With an unfulfilled dream, you may have joy and happiness, when you have control over your desire. But if your desire goes beyond, then you're out of the mindset. If you dream many things, surely self-comforting is in the list. Less mentioned and flashed in your mind, but without realizing it, you need it significantly. Given we find joy and happiness in self-comforting, therefore, self-comforting may be our basic satisfaction.

               In this article, we painted just a part of what is self-comforting. Anyway, we can still learn a lot from that part. As it is defined, it's like feeling good about ourselves in spite of any situation or trial. And don't forget, the main things are the mindset, gratefulness, and positivism ( Power of Thought ). That's the best way to get self-comforting.